Thoughts on one life to live

5 Secrets You Must Know Dear Daughter #NationalGirlChildDay

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on January 24, 2020 36

5 Secrets you must know dear daughter was written some time back. But today is #NationalGirlchildDay .I asked my daughter to read this post. She is six and she smiled at me reading the second and third para. Then she got distracted.

Next year I will try again. But till then dear reader, this is for you.

Darling daughter, I hope one day you will read this. One day you will know how you changed my life. One day you will know all your mom’s secrets. But today I will share my 5 secrets which helped me become who I am today.

I was a dreamer. A daydreamer, night dreamer, train and bus dreamer. I could dream anywhere. I also loved planning my dreams. That was much before I knew that planned dreaming is like action blueprints, with many fancy names. I read in a Russian fairy tale book(in Bengali).

Raat pohale buddhi barey(Bengali)

Roughly translated it means:

Your brain will work better once the night is over!

I always thought it had something to do with dreams. Everything seems better after a good night’s rest.

Secret 1: Keep dreaming.But not in the classroom

I was an average student till I was in class seven . I did well in some and okay in others. But something changed after that. Without boring you with the details I will say this. I realized life getting better or not, depended a lot on my own choices. Once I stopped thinking I was the victim of circumstances I had control. Control over how much I studied, how I studied, why I studied. This was life-changing. After this, there was no looking back. I don’t remember my mother ever nagged me to study. I don’t want to either. So please study darling

Secret 2: Study hard and read a lot

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I had no plans of getting married until it was a romantic and kind prince, who could be braver than me, smarter than me(just a tiny bit). He also had to love books, plants, babies, traveling. He had to be self-made(earn loads of money). be good in studies too. If he got along with people, then that would be perfect.

Now I must be honest. When I married your father he was still studying, though he was a doctor(just like me) and we both earned a stipend.Not much though.Not yet self or otherwise made (in fact he had study loans)!

He loved books(but only textbooks). Shocking really! But loved all the rest. What clinched the deal? Oh yes, darling. Don’t be shocked, marriage is romantic but a deal between souls. He was kind.Very.That’s an underrated quality, but very important to look for in your partner. He was also nice. Even when we fought! He was also romantic.

God insisted we get married.M y soul insisted it was the real thing. We got married.T hat’s one of the biggest reasons I am able to do it all darling. Because your father helps me with everything. We don’t have gender-differentiated roles at home. You will know what I am talking about when you grow a little older.

Secret 3: Marry with care. Choose your spouse well. You spend more than half your life with him so he needs to be a friend.

Take care of your spirit. Never think you are a victim of circumstances.P ray, keep a habit of writing thank you note. It will help. Saying thank you and being grateful, helps you attract all the goodness of the universe toward you. How wonderful is that?

Secret 4: Practice thankfulness and Pray always. Faith is the biggest source of happiness.

Persist. Always. If there is one quality I want you to practice is persistence and perseverance.

You have to persist and do what you have to do, what you have to. What happens is destiny!

Secret 5 Persist and persevere.

I have a Bonus secret 6 for you! Have grace. Even if things don’t go according to your wish. Maybe the wish was not for your best.B both failure and success must be gratefully accepted. Because both teach us.

Do remember I always will love you. Wherever I am, I will be watching, listening and feeling all your emotions. Be a brave girl. Grow strong with each tear you shed and every smile you share.

You are my happiness and light and you came to this world because your parents loved you dearly, even before you were born.

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But will you heed my warnings? Will you learn from my wisdom, will you make the same mistakes? Will you be wiser?

I don’t know dear daughter. What I do know, is to have faith and persist in Mommying.

Wrote this for #MondayMommyMoments

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Thankful for Independent India (WOWfeatured)

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on August 15, 2019 25

The best thing about India? There are so many reasons to be thankful for Independent India.

India is the country of hope. It’s the country of opportunity. It’s a country where the ancient practices of yoga and Ayurveda are discussed along with the latest in medical science. It’s a country where people come to find peace.

But peace is inside you. It’s not a place or thing. It’s not a person who can give you peace. Only you can. This understanding came to me when I started reading Gita. The adventures the Hindu mythology offers for the fertile mind is unmatched in other scriptures.

It’s a country of diversity. It’s a country with myriad colors and beautiful nature. It’s a country which lost its way and is trying to find it back.

It’s a country whose social fabric makes family important. It’s a country which made it possible for me to be a doctor. Expenses of Rupees 250 per year.Books I bought second-hand my mama (maternal uncle helped ) helped.

It’s a country where people everyday struggle to make ends meet and still celebrate all festivals. It’s a country with many promises which only we can keep. It’s a country which had termites eating it from inside, but now things are getting better,

It’s a country where we once believed in see no evil, harm no evil and speak no evil. Unfortunately, we need a new saying!

It’s a country of Satyameva Jayate. The truth alone triumphs. I have long discussions about truth and the relative merits of it with my hubby.

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It’s also a country where we believe Lord Krishna said that

The truth which hurts is worse than the falsehood which heals.

It’s a country where Vivekananda said there’s no worship, greater than the worship of humanity.

It’s a country where we got rid of child marriage. Where Raja Ram Mohan Roy stopped sati and paved the way for widow remarriage.

It’s the country where Netaji Subhas Chandra Bose left Congress when he did not believe in what they wanted for India. A chapter of history very cleverly whitewashed!

It’s a country trapped between good and evil. It’s a country struggling to balance the old with the young. It’s a country trying to keep its history intact and carve a better future. It’s a country which wants its citizens to believe in secularism. It’s a country which wants you to be proud of the national song and national anthem. It’s a country where little girls dare to dream. It’s a country which gave me the chance to have a concurrent second career as an author and a blogger.

It’s a country where I can die for.

Cool India fact:

India is the largest democracy.It is an ancient and still living civilization (at least 10, 000 years old).

‘This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda and I won the WOW badge for it.

It is also my #MondayMommyMoments post for Independence day.

Linking up with Corinne at everydaygyaan .

This post is republished on the occasion of Independence day.

Read 5 Reasons I am thankful for India

Carrot or the Stick: Do incentives work?

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on October 19, 2018 39

Carrot or the stick?

What works for you ?

What works for your children?

Call it what you will, incentives are what get people to work harder.
– Nikita Khrushchev

Management bosses drive their teams with alternate use of both.

Insurance agents get lifelong percentage, from the premium paid by their customers.This encourages their tremendous enthusiasm to make you buy those policies.

Shopping at Shoppers Stop Pantaloons Big Bazaar helps us get points on our store cards . Encouraging us to shop more at those stores.

Not using a helmet can lead to serious head injury while accidents and fine if caught. Unfortunately the first one rarely stopped people in this small town.But surprisingly after increase of the fine for helmet less travel ,more people wear this ,to protect their not so important head.

This led me to think deeply about what motivates me.

When I was a little girl .My mom used to tell us stories of all the places we would visit once money was not an issue. How to make that possible?

For middle class families the best way to plan that is to study hard and get a great job.

I followed the plan to a T .But I wanted to be a doctor. For as long as I could remember,I wanted to be a doctor.

Probably a childhood wish of making my father better ,who suffered from swinging moods of MDP.

Whatever the reason I did become a doctor and I would recommend it to anyone ,who wants a chance to make the world a better place .

Life is comfortable and you feel good when you help people.

That’s when I realized the truth about why people do what they do.

At the end of the day ,we all want to make a difference. We all want to feel important. We all want to create value. If that comes with a good life ,that’s the cherry on the cake.So for people to do what you want ,they must feel a need .

A need for something.Once they start doing it ,it becomes a habit.

To get them started, incentives can go a long way.

The Governments Kanyashree and Ladli all promise money, when the girl child is educated.Shouldn’t a better life following education be prize enough ?

Unfortunately no.That’s why the cash helps.Incentives help in many places where goodness of the heart or sensibility of mind doesn’t seem to find a place.

Incentives also increase enthusiasm .It helps create a happy dedicated workforce. If great work gets you rewards ,doesn’t that create impetus for awesome results?

In fact rewards have been used in this study to help stop smoking.

In this study incentive helped physicians give better quality care for diabetes patients.Sounds weird right. But healthcare is the perfect place for a reward based programme.

Health insurance premiums are distinctly lower ,for healthy people with normal weight and no history of smoking .

In this study with 704 participants found, that with difficult tasks , performance based incentives work better.Tasks are completed more with performance based incentive than any other.

So what the truth about incentives?

They work .

Most of the time.

But at other times the stick may work.
What works for you?Comment below to let me know.

Life’s Like that when you Introspect (inspired by Reader’s Digest)

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on September 29, 2018 4

Will it be easy?

Not really.

Will you have fun? Always!

Will you swim ashore?

Every time.

This is what I want to tell my younger self, no more a child, not yet an adult.When the only way I knew to keep my mind from drowning, was to read life’s like that and laughter is the best medicine in Reader’s digest.

The secret to staying afloat is simple but difficult. You need to keep on swimming and praying. Sometimes with the tide and sometimes against, but don’t stop. Just as we are winding down with this month, I want to share a few motivational quotes to help, when things look tough!

15 Motivational Quotes To Help You Win

1) Sometimes life gives you lemons with no juice. Use the rind!

2)The only people who succeed are those who try and persist.

3)There’s only one way with negative thinking, that’s down.

4)The people who dream the same dream, are worth fighting for.

5)You will get a lot of choices, the ones you pick will change your life. But let it always be your choice.

6)Negative associations will always have a negative recall. Avoid.

7)Life is a bed of roses and the thorns keep things interesting. Just don’t let them rot.

8)If you can’t read a book, think twice before you write one.

9)The virtual world is just that. Virtual.

10) Grow something which makes a difference to someone. If that someone is you, that’s good too.

11) If people don’t download something which is free, it probably needs rethinking.

12) If the help at home is making roti(Indian bread) you can’t chew, before sacking her, check whether yours are better.

13) The only two thing that’s better than chocolate is writing and walking. Both make me feel wonderful without the guilt-laden calories.

14)It’s interesting to meet old friends. It just makes me convinced that no one really changes.

15)The most important thing in life is not money. But it’s a very close second.

Tell me which one is your favorite in the comments below.

#ThankfulThursdays37 :Thankful for Blogging contests

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on September 14, 2017 35

I believe anything that helps me grow positively is for the good and is blessed by God’s wishes.For me writing on my blog has been a self-healing and self-discovery of sorts.Blogging contests fall right where reading, writing, gardening, and thankfulness comes from.It helps me write, it helps me learn, it helps me push my boundaries and grow my blog.

Over the past one year, I have participated in a few contests.I have completed most of them.My take away from them was the community feeling.The feeling there are people just like me, who are struggling to find themselves and their blogs.

You feel like you belong. These are the people who are trying to do more, with what they have, wherever they are.That’s powerful.

4 Blogging communities which I must mention Write tribe, Indiblogger, Blogchatter, and Blogadda!

How do these contests help me?

Helps me write and motivates me, even when I am busy and have many excuses for not writing!Its like a slow burn.Writing will be a soothing aloe vera gel!
Helps me promote my blog.That’s the power of networking.
Helps me read and discover new blogs.
Helps me learn from other bloggers.
It is the best way to get noticed by brands if you are writing useful content.
Did you know the comment links even when no follow have link juices?So reading and commenting on blogs will help to depend on your niche and the quality of the blog in question.
It helps in my blog’s health and my emotional health.
Helped me write my first two books
Blogging contests help keep the inertia of writing going.

Newton’s First law: In an inertial reference frame, an object either remains at rest or continues to move at a constant velocity, unless acted upon by a force.

In simpler terms it means

An object at rest stays at rest and an object in motion stays in motion with the same speed and in the same direction unless acted upon by an unbalanced force.

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The Blogging contests I participate in starting from July last year:

Daily chatter Half marathon by Blogchatter(15 days)
My friend Alexa 1.0(30 days)
Ultimate blogging challenge /Daily chatter by Blogchatter (October 30 days)
The International Ultimate Blogging Challenge in December(30 days)
A to Z in April with Blogchatter this year.
#Tiniature on Twitter by Gayatri_Gadre.
Weekly WOW on Blogadda.
Writebravely in August with Write tribe(7 days Daily blogging).

The secret to the health of your blog is your content.Plan it well make it consistent.Make it count.But in the process don’t fall into the inertia of rest and the myth of perfection.

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Thankful for my Window Seat View when it Rains

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on September 3, 2017 25

The window seat in my bedroom is my favorite place to hang out when it rains.

My cup of tea, a mystery book, and a cushion.What else do you need?

When I look out of the window I can see the top of the medical college where I work.It’s light blue in color and eight stories high.One of the tallest building in this small town.The sky above it and all around look like a giant tent tethered on top of it.The houses next to it are just small pegs holding the tent down.

With the circus that’s happening with healthcare, the lies and half-truths the Government in India and the state are feeding the unsuspecting public, this feeling of being part of a circus is becoming stronger day-to-day.On days when I am in an introspective mood I wonder at my analogy.But on days like today when it’s drizzling throughout, the only thing that comes to my mind is the song from Sound of music.

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Watching the rain from my window seat reminds me of why I need to remember my favorite things.Why this is the best time of my life.Why I need to thank God for all my powers to cope.

Why God gives me my joys and troubles.I am given the cards which I can play.God is kind that way.He wants me to win.Learn and win.That’s why he gives these challenges Those that I don’t win are even more interesting.They teach in surprising ways.

Photo by Handcrafted Homes, Inc in Houzz .My dream bedroom window seat

The friends who walked a different path but fondly remembered.The ones who are there even miles away. The people who helped me and those who I couldn’t help.

Sitting by the window I think of all these things.But I also do one more thing.I try to let go.I put my negative thoughts and my worries free into the sky.Like Dumbledore used to empty his mind in the Pensieve, I try that.Not always successful.But it gets better with practice.

“I use the Pensieve. One simply siphons the excess thoughts from one’s mind, pours them into the basin, and examines them at one’s leisure. It becomes easier to spot patterns and links, you understand, when they are in this form.”
Albus Dumbledore explaining what a Pensieve is

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My profession shows the depressing side of life too often.To help myself cope my window seat is a blessing.It’s my turn to let go ….from the window.

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5 Secrets You Must Know Dear Daughter #NationalGirlChildDay

5 Secrets you must know dear daughter was written some time back. But today is #NationalGirlchildDay .I asked my daughter to read this post. She is six and she smiled at me reading the second and third para. Then she got distracted.