Thankful Thursdays have made life more disciplined and fulfilling. When you know you have a long list of blessings, life just becomes more peaceful.The small irritations like AC not working in the car , loses its power to spoil the day.Today on Thankful Thursday, we are celebrating the ”people gifts” that God gives us.Friends !
I believe people treasures, are the true measure of who you are and what you are.If I am the total of the five people I spend the most time with, then I am in excellent company.The best part is, family we are born, with friends we choose.
When I was a child I had a habit of blurting out the most outrageous truths. I stayed friends with people who could handle that. Honest, hard working, fun humans, who can give back as good as they get. When people don’t know you they judge you by the friends you have.So choose carefully ,because friends can help you win or make failing inevitable.
I tend to gravitate toward 3 types of friends
1)People who are good and make me feel happy.
2)People who are fun.
3)People who are interesting.
When I was in school my best friend, R was an adorable mix of all three.Probably that’s why we are still in touch, separated by 5 seas and 3 continents.It has taken me a long time, but I have come to find the people, who make me feel good, are fun, interesting and from whom I can learn.Every person can teach us something.Through their good behavior or bad traits.It’s a personal choice that I would rather associate with good.
I married such a friend and found the first type of adorable friends online. Together we just published our E -books and it’s a wonderful feeling.
Good friends help you be better.
I have made my fair share of mistakes and hung out with the wrong sorts because they were fun and interesting.Then I was not reading philosophy and human nature.I thought
If I am good, nobody can tarnish me.
I was wrong .Evil does have great power if you let it enter.
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When you are good and happy, your soul shines with a golden light and people smile when you enter a room.When you spend time with the wrong type of people, those with whom you don’t agree, whose morals make you cringe, that golden light in your soul dies.Your perfume becomes like the smell of a closed room.Heavy and claustrophobic.You are doing something and your brain is sending you distress signs!
That’s not a good situation.Successful people make friends carefully and you should too.
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Read below, what Aristotle says about friendship
Each type of friendship, to be an actual friendship, has the following attributes:
“To be friends, therefore, men must (1) feel goodwill for each other, that is, wish each other’s good, and (2) be aware of each other’s goodwill, and (3) the cause of their goodwill must be one of the lovable qualities like utility ,friendship and good.
Aristotle observes, “The perfect form of friendship is that between the good and those who resemble each other in virtue.
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Unfortunately, I found it rather late.But luckily God has always given me the guidance to find the right way to fight my battles. No two person is similar so what works for one may nit work for the other.
But certain basic stuff like trust , sincerity, andkindness helps when you use them to dress up realities.
When I was a teenager, I used to read Readers digest, a lot.Relationship articles were always insightful.One such article had once said. If you ask your husband what he is thinking, he will answer,
Nothing.
9 Times out of 10 this the truth and the 10th time it’s probably the last match he watched!This doesn’t mean men are not into deep thinking ,they just rarely ponder and over think like we do.
I know my husband for 17 years (we are best friends since Medical college )and going to enter our 9th year of being married.
10 Steps Make Hubby Hear: Ignore these at Your Own Peril
Pick your battles.Don’t try to win all arguments. I am bad with this but trying to work on it.I suffer from the delusion of
I am always right!
Deep introspection over the last year, has made me realize even if I am right ,(which is relative, in the bigger scheme )my methods of doing the right thing is no way a winner.
So now when I start a discussion, I tell that to him upfront.
See I have been 99 %right about reading situations, but 50%wrong about the right way to deal with it.You on the other hand font need to read self-help books to find working solutions.So help me out here.
Surprise!Though he looks a little skeptical at the 99%thing, he is more amused and relaxed than defensive now.Must have this relaxed body language, when you are discussing important topics.Stress shows and the other person reacts to it, badly.
2. If possible jot down on small pieces of paper, the points to discuss, like you would in a meeting.Keep all emotions, except kindness and love, off the conversation. That means no emotional outbursts.Difficult but must do.
Shouldn’t burn down your home to solve problems.Also, hysterical female, damsel in distress, should only be your last resort!
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3 .Look at his eyes.If he starts avoiding eye contact, it’s time for a cup of coffee and take a step back.Refusing to meet your eyes is a sure shot indication he has no intention of agreeing to your ideas.
4.Don’t do it in front of kids.Kids need to be kids and you never know what they repeat.Also, the following tactics may be needed:
a.You might need to sit on his lap to win the battle.
b.You might need to kiss him, to show it’s you the woman he loves and not an adversary.
c.At the worse, you may turn into a screeching banshee.
In front of kids, it’s, unfortunately, the 3rd one which makes things worse.
5.Never give negative ultimatums.They hardly ever work to get you the results.More likely it will make the problem worse.
I am more likely to say
You will need to take me for weekend breaks every month ,if this doesn’t work out!
This doesn’t make him feel bad and makes me feel even better, even when I don’t get my own way.Either way , guess who has a good time?
6.Ugly truths presented horribly have useless results.There’s no way you can win here.Try to be neutral and analytical,rather than irritating.But I must tell you, being a wife and being irritating, goes hand in hand during these times.
7.Wear lipstick and look pretty.Arguments are easier to win, when you look pretty.Believe me, it’s nothing do with vanity and everything to do with armor.Never go into tricky situations, looking less than your best.
8.Don’t go to bed with a fight in your heart.When you go to sleep it should always be with love in your heart and not bitterness.
You may feel , it’s always you, who does the reaching out, to give a hug. Remember all relationships are equal but not necessarily in everything. Sometimes it’s 40 /sometimes it’s 70 / 30.
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9.Try to make your hubby your friend.It’s easier to argue with a friend than a husband.Make it a game.You lose some and you win some.That’s life too.Sometimes you need to be a little roundabout.But you have to find a way, that works My opening lines for arguments are always
All disagreement I may have is as a friend.All agreements as a wife !
10.When in doubt, look sad and try the ‘damsel in distress ”thing.Okay, it may or may not work.But you never know until you try.Also be careful that you are honest with yourself.Why you do, what you do is not something anyone can help you with.
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Comment below and share your tips to make hubby listen? Writing this for #MondayMommyMoments
Last month of April was amazing.I blogged daily for 26 days for the #AtoZchallenge.My topic was Nutrition : Fruit facts you must know.
But what was amazing was even with daily blogging Deepa and I wrote for #MondayMommyMoments.It’s wonderful. when you write with people, who are thinking like you.We really didn’t think moms would have the energy to write on prompts with daily blogging.!But moms are blessed.We do what needs to get done right?
So we wrote each day, read the posts linked up, and shared blessings.
One thing I realized about #MondayMommyMoments mommies.We are tough & creative.
When the going gets tough, we write even more!
How awesome is that?Deepa had exams(her daughters did that is), Dipika was traveling, Tina had two blogs and Bluey and each mommy had her own struggle going on.But we wrote.
That’s the power of habits .if you write daily, it’s a habit.You never know what battles you may win because of that.
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Prompt this week:
Hubby Listen me !
how many time have you said, you don’t listen!Share with us your tips to make the man hear!
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Winner #MondayMommyMoments week 17Dipika ,winner of #MondayMommyMoments week 17
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