5 Secrets you must know dear daughter was written some time back. But today is #NationalGirlchildDay .I asked my daughter to read this post. She is six and she smiled at me reading the second and third para. Then she got distracted.
Next year I will try again. But till then dear reader, this is for you.
Darling daughter, I hope one day you will read this. One day you will know how you changed my life. One day you will know all your mom’s secrets. But today I will share my 5 secrets which helped me become who I am today.
I was a dreamer. A daydreamer, night dreamer, train and bus dreamer. I could dream anywhere. I also loved planning my dreams. That was much before I knew that planned dreaming is like action blueprints, with many fancy names. I read in a Russian fairy tale book(in Bengali).
Raat pohale buddhi barey(Bengali)
Roughly translated it means:
Your brain will work better once the night is over!
I always thought it had something to do with dreams. Everything seems better after a good night’s rest.
Secret 1: Keep dreaming.But not in the classroom
I was an average student till I was in class seven . I did well in some and okay in others. But something changed after that. Without boring you with the details I will say this. I realized life getting better or not, depended a lot on my own choices. Once I stopped thinking I was the victim of circumstances I had control. Control over how much I studied, how I studied, why I studied. This was life-changing. After this, there was no looking back. I don’t remember my mother ever nagged me to study. I don’t want to either. So please study darling
Secret 2: Study hard and read a lot
I had no plans of getting married until it was a romantic and kind prince, who could be braver than me, smarter than me(just a tiny bit). He also had to love books, plants, babies, traveling. He had to be self-made(earn loads of money). be good in studies too. If he got along with people, then that would be perfect.
Now I must be honest. When I married your father he was still studying, though he was a doctor(just like me) and we both earned a stipend.Not much though.Not yet self or otherwise made (in fact he had study loans)!
He loved books(but only textbooks). Shocking really! But loved all the rest. What clinched the deal? Oh yes, darling. Don’t be shocked, marriage is romantic but a deal between souls. He was kind.Very.That’s an underrated quality, but very important to look for in your partner. He was also nice. Even when we fought! He was also romantic.
God insisted we get married.M y soul insisted it was the real thing. We got married.T hat’s one of the biggest reasons I am able to do it all darling. Because your father helps me with everything. We don’t have gender-differentiated roles at home. You will know what I am talking about when you grow a little older.
Secret 3: Marry with care. Choose your spouse well. You spend more than half your life with him so he needs to be a friend.
Take care of your spirit. Never think you are a victim of circumstances.P ray, keep a habit of writing thank you note. It will help. Saying thank you and being grateful, helps you attract all the goodness of the universe toward you. How wonderful is that?
Secret 4: Practice thankfulness and Pray always. Faith is the biggest source of happiness.
Persist. Always. If there is one quality I want you to practice is persistence and perseverance.
You have to persist and do what you have to do, what you have to. What happens is destiny!
Secret 5 Persist and persevere.
I have a Bonus secret 6 for you! Have grace. Even if things don’t go according to your wish. Maybe the wish was not for your best.B both failure and success must be gratefully accepted. Because both teach us.
Do remember I always will love you. Wherever I am, I will be watching, listening and feeling all your emotions. Be a brave girl. Grow strong with each tear you shed and every smile you share.
You are my happiness and light and you came to this world because your parents loved you dearly, even before you were born.
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But will you heed my warnings? Will you learn from my wisdom, will you make the same mistakes? Will you be wiser?
I don’t know dear daughter. What I do know, is to have faith and persist in Mommying.
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The article is really great. I have a daughter who is going to turn 18 pretty soon. I wrote a letter to her on her 15h birthday. The message you are telling is really great and precious.
Thanks Aradhana
So beautifully put. FIrst I have to tell you I’ve read that same line from Russian Folk Tales, only in English – It says Go to sleep for mornings are wiser than night.
I loved the messages you gave your daughter. That’s priceless advice.
Thanks Tulika.That book was nice and the lessons powerful.
A wonderful letter, both for daughters and sons! I would say they are words to live by, for anyone.
Well said
Thank you
hi Amrita one from my grandmother, which I handed to my daughters, “Learn from our mistakes,” so you have the luxury of making your own.
That’s a good one!T hanks for sharing.
Nicely penned…Loved reading each and every advice/ secret
these are lessons I want my girls to know, I want them to be careful who they give their hearts to, and to trust in their decisions. #mg
I love this, and these are secrets I want my own daughters to know. Marry with care is something I wish I had known, it took a really bad divorce for me to learn that lesson,#mg
Yes life teaches us!
You have written it really beautifully.. i second your thoughts ????
what a truly inspirational, beautiful and wise post. I will share this with my daughters! Thank you for sharing it here #mg
Thank you Mackenzie
This is so beautiful… very well written ???????? a letter from every mother to her daughter
Thank you
Such beautiful and heartfelt thought. I can relate as I also have a daughter.
It’s a very informative post.. thanks for sharing
Loved reading, yes, we should allow them to dream, to achieve and yes they have to be very aware of the spouse they choose.
This is such an amazing letter and heart touching too… Daughters are always special..
Very beautifully you explained these five secrets of life with your daughter. I just loved reading it. Will share these with my daughter too. Every girl should know these secrets. Thanks for sharing
Wow 3 cheers for sharing such valuable experience of choosing a life partner perfect in his own way Love this post to the core
This is such a beautiful post, Amrita. Being a daughter’s Mom I can relate to every bit of it. If I sit down to write to her, I probably will say the same things. Loved it!
Wonserful. Every mother kind of teaches her daughter such lessons as I can say by my experience. ????
Wise tips
very nice informative guidelines thanks for sharing
Your daughter is lucky to have a mother like you. Great advice for girls. Especially when you ask them to dream and choose spouse correctly. I wish my mom had told me this.
This is so heart-touching. An amazing letter that every girl must read! <3
You have penned your thoughts well. Love the way you explained in simple words serious matters of life to your daughter
I love my daughter and these tips are so apt and useful in practical life. We must give them the freedom and equality so that they remain happy thruout their life.
Very well written, could be told to others daughters too
Daughters are our images, we should make them. Strong as we are
Lovely thoughts penned…not only your daughter, many daughters will benefit from this piece of wisdom.
Such a gentle yet powerful message. Loved going through it.