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Hopes and wishes for my daughter:#MondayMommyMoments 28

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on July 10, 2017

Monday Mommy Moments is my online diary of things I never thought I would write.After 9 months of carrying the baby and then growing up with her, I have become the calmest version of me.

When I was a little girl I used to daydream a lot.I read somewhere,

If you can plan it in your dreams, you can do it in reality.The trick is to remember what you planned.

The trick is to remember what you planned.Sometimes that’s so far deep in your subconscious mind that retrieving will be difficult.

My hopes and dreams for my daughter are many

I hope she will value good and kind people.Learning to identify good and evil is paramount to a happy life.Know what to look for, identify those qualities and appreciate those people.All of these may not be in one person.But even 60/40 white and grey is okay.The trick is to know inside your heart what is acceptable and what’s not.For that being a good person yourself is very important.I hope she will be a good and kind person.

I hope she will continue to cherish nature like she does now.She knows mommy loves staring at trees .She enjoys helping me in the little balcony garden.This knowing and enjoying should stay, grow and blossom as time passes.I hope she will create a green nook wherever she goes.One of the easiest ways to tap into your own creativity is to be around nature, I hope she will remember this.

I hope she will study.Hard .Read a lot.Forever.Knowledge is infinite.Applying is difficult.Sometimes the rewards are indirect and not clear.But everything you learn has a value.It helps you grow from inside.Its like watering your soul.Knowledge is essential for a soul to grow.Continuing to learn and challenge your brain is the most well-kept secret to stop age-related dementia.

I hope she will become a Doctor.Even with all the negative publicity, the horrifying violence against doctors I hope she does become one.You will ask me why.The simple answer is .there really is no better profession.It has tremendous hardships during training and afterward.It has back-breaking work pressure.You have to study till your eyes and head pains.You will feel sad when you have to give bad news to people.You will carry the burden of your patient’s illness.

But, there’s a big but here.

Hopes and wishes for my daughter are many.Writing a few done which will make her happy and live life well

Since this is the only profession where you can choose to do the right thing.You can help people, do what you love and still support yourself from the time you have your graduate degree.It’s also a good way to take care of your own self and those of your near ones.Which other profession helps you do this?None.But ultimately she should choose to be a doctor.Its a calling, not a career.The good part is fantastic but the gray zones need the strength of own choice.

I hope she will write, blog or whatever ways of self-expression there is.If her being a doctor is important for me .I think writing is a way of self-expression which will make her happy too.She actually makes up stories with words whose spelling she hardly knows.Storytelling is a fun way of finding inner happiness which I wish she will learn.

I hope she will be brave and strong.The world is not for the faint hearted or the weak souled.I hope you will remember the values about right and wrong and finding the right balance.Just being right and knowing the right way is not enough.You have to have the tenacity to make people see your light and have the courage to walk alone if needed.

I hope she will marry a knight in a shining armor who is a good man as smart as or smarter than her.Smart women don’t live happily with stupid men.It’s a handicap.They may think it’s going to be easy.But it never is.I hope she will marry someone who makes her happy and is kind to her.Someone, she can’t live without, someone who can’t live without her.Life is beautiful when you love deeply.

I hope she will know mommy and daddy will always be there inside her.Even if we can’t always be with her we will always think about her wherever we are.I hope she will know how much I love her.I hope she knows how being her mommy changed my life.I hope she will know that life was complete only after I became a mom.I hope she will know I write because of her.Shall I ever tell her all this? Sounds too mushy.So unlikely.But I hope my brain waves are picked up by hers and she knows.The mother-daughter bond is beyond motherhood.Its eternal.The circle of life.

“The miracle of children is that we just don’t know how they will change or who they will become.”
Eileen Kennedy-Moore, Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child’s True Potential

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If I could start my parenting journey what would I do differently:#MondayMommyMoments 27

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on July 3, 2017

If I could start my parenting journey what would I do differently?

Interesting question.Honestly, I would rather not start again.I have covered a little ground and it has been great.Ups and downs, overall wonderful.But when I think hard about this I realize a few ground work, real and wishful, could definitely make the journey easier.

My 10 point Checklist

1)I would attend the practice breastfeeding session and breast pump practice session(are there those anywhere in Kolkata?).Who knew it would be so difficult? At least it was for me.

2)Make a list of all snacks I could make for Tiffin every day.It has to be different, tasty, nutritious nonmessy. look pretty, not get spoilt and a few more things which I have forgotten!This one is like overcoming a sudoku puzzle.

3)Make playsheets, worksheets, activity sheets according to age.I am making them now, but it’s a race against time. The best way to keep children happy (and mommy gets housework done), is to keep them interested.For that, a lot of research is needed.It’s no less than astrophysics!I wish I could have researched this when she was still inside.

Your children learn to smile with you.Are you smiling enough ?

4)No shouting at all in front of the baby. This I rarely do but, even when I do I wish I wouldn’t.

5)Plant more trees in our locality, town, city, country, world.Make the earth cleaner. The air cleaner and greener.

6)Find more moms I like, hoping the children will turn out like them.Then Rai could have good friends.Finding well behaved good playmates, that’s a challenge!

7)Grow ten hands and three heads.Mommy head,Doctor head ,daughter,wife,blogger,author,gardener, et cetera head.Can you do that?Grow heads and hands?I am still researching this one.Very important for coping.

Painting our plant pots together make for some fun family times .

Playsheets .Activity sheets.Creative challenges are very important for the little ones growing brain .It's always a nagging worry at the back of my mind.Am I doing enough? — Playsheets .Activity sheets.Creative challenges are very important for the little ones growing brain.It’s always a nagging worry at the back of my mind.Am I doing enough?

8)Learn martial arts, fighting skills like Devsena(the Bahubali femme fatale).Then I can teach my daughter.I can’t find age appropriate Coaching Centre where I live.Now youtube videos are our best bet.

9)Read even more to her slowly.I tend to read at full speed.This I am trying even now.It has helped develop her vocabulary .language skills, good .story telling skills with little effort.

10)Stress less and Pray more.All will good.

What would you do differently if you could start your parenting journey again?

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Monday Mommy Moments Week 27

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on July 3, 2017

Monday Mommy Moments is my online memory keeper. What I think, feel, do about this interesting Life lesson called Motherhood. Someone once asked what happens on a linky party?

We link to each other, that’s good for SEO, but what else?

Monday mommy moments we have a brain pool every Monday. We feel the joys, pains, sorrows, challenges, hopes dreams and aspirations of the moms through their writing.

On the prompt or without the prompt, I enjoy reading those who link up.It is the best way make online friends.

Tangible or intangible friendships matter. Whatever happens in life, it’s because someone somewhere has been kind to you. Don’t forget to read my post linked in the linky on today’s prompt.

Today’s Prompt:

If I could start my parenting journey what would you do differently?

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Thankful Thursdays: 3 Simple Pleasures I am thankful for(32)

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on June 29, 2017

Some things are uncanny.When you count your blessings they are supposed to multiply.Now, what happens when it appears they don’t?What do you do?Stop counting blessings?

Does that make you feel happy?

Does it make your mood better?

What if things are not going well and you still hold on to the one thing you have control over?

What’s that you ask?

I will tell you a secret.It’s your mind.When you can control your thoughts, you have a power that few have.People may or may not understand your way of thinking, but God has a way of making things right.Even when a thousand different thing is crashing down.In the end, we will all reach home!

Does it help to make a list of all things that went wrong this week, this month or this year?

Or does it help to make a list of all the wonderful things that happened?If you watch the news, you will be hard pressed for things that make you happy.But that’s where Thankful Thursdays help me. Each week when I say thank you, I remembered all the small things which made me feel good. It’s that time of week again.

It’s time to say Thank you!

My daughter was born on a Thursday, so Thursdays are special.

The 3 Simple pleasures that make me thankful are:

The Air conditioner. Maybe not simple.But something that makes me happy every moment of the hot sweaty summers in Malda.Work stress and irritations disappeared at the end of the day when I enter my home.Life feels blessed.

My love for books

I cannot imagine my life anywhere without my family or books.Wherever I go, I just need a storybook, and now my Kindle, to feel at home.The habit of reading that I developed when I was 6 /7 years of age changed my life.

Books are the best way to learn from other peoples mistakes.

The perfect cup of Tea

Have you ever had the perfect cup of masala chai?

A gingery milk tea?

The fragrant Darjeeling tea?

What about a whispering green tea?

All this can make me sigh and think about it for the entire day!Tea is like my first best friend.I can never forget her, nor can I find someone like her! Even the memories make me smile.When we meet, time seems to have done a jump around!

Thanking the Universe every week is just my way of staying calm and less freaked out.Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.But when all things seem to be crashing, it’s your soul which need strengthening.Thankfulness is one way I do that.

How do you strengthen your soul?

Comment below to let me know.

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MondayMommyMoments 26 :Memories of Motherhood

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on June 26, 2017

MondayMommyMoments is my way of journaling about motherhood.It’s a great way to keep track of milestones ,tips, and tricks.

The best memory keeper is my brain.But for backup, I have a variety of options.I never thought being a mommy would be so much fun.Imagine till 5 years of age you could be I was infallible in a little person eyes. Then she will have occasional doubts.

I am dreading the time when moms are never believed.

But even with all ups and downs, this is an experience which changes you and makes you better like nothing else.It is also the best way to build up your patience, perseverance.

While every moment is special storing those memories can be a challenge.

Luckily we have several options online and offline.

(Disclaimer: There are affiliate links in the next part of the post.That means if you do click on a link and buy something I will get a small commission.This in no way affects the product price for you.I recommend only products I personally use and love.Your help and support is a big part of how I maintain this website.All help is deeply appreciated.You can tweet what you bought tagging me.I will always respond.)

My favorites ways to store memories of Motherhood are:

Photo wall

The timeless way of having a beautiful

Digital photo frame.

You can buy one or convert your laptop or PC into one

LED TV Photo slide.Just plug in your hard disc with your photos and watch one after another, memories flitting through the screen.

Old digital phones.If they are working don’t through them away .decrease e-waste and reuse them as your extra digital storage

Laptop: Never forget to update these and increase your memory.Always a great option for backup of the digital memories.

Hard disks, Pen drives Memory cards.

My favorite hard disc

Cloud storage:

Plenty of options to choose from.Most of these are free for a considerable amount of digital data.You will have to occasionally clean up.

Google Drive
Dropbox
Picasa

Social media with settings adjusted:

This is a great option with unlimited storage.But always adjust your privacy settings to allow only yourself or family/close friends to view.

The password should be strong.I try affirmative password which helps me every time I sign in!

If these platforms suddenly wind up or change their policies (which they can. remember Orkut ?).you may lose your precious pictures if you have no backup.

Facebook with adjusted privacy settings.

YouTube: You can make it private unlisted or public depending on what you want to share.With unlisted settings, you can share the link.

Private Instagram account

Your own Digital Kingdom

Your blog.

MondayMommy Moments Prompt this week:

How do you keep your memories of Motherhood stored?

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Monday Mommy moments :Parenting Together (25)

By Dr.Amrita Basu(MBBS,MS) on June 19, 2017

What is the difference between a dad and mom when it comes to parenting?

People are different and so are men and women .We are the best parents to our little girl.When it comes to different ways of parenting I have observed a few things, but it definitely is not a general observation.

The view from the sky about Parenting style:

Daddy always plays however tired he is.

Mummy always insist on 1 healthy food fruit or vegetables.It doesn’t matter whether cook absent or not. This is not negotiable.

Daddy helps revise before exams.Mommy believes in 20 minutes of study time, for 3 hours of play time. This works great.Since Rai is only five, it’s more work for me if I have to make her sit longer.

Daddy loves running around and playing catch.

Mommy likes drawing and coloring with me.

Mommy wants Rai to understand when she is meditating also known as snoozing in the afternoon. Dad never naps.

Ground Zero view of Parenting at my home:

Mommy and Daddy both try their best.But it’s sometimes 60/40 and 40/60 at others.

Parenting is a Tango, best done as a couple!

It’s fulfilling fun and the biggest learning opportunity as an adult.Unfortunately, we don’t get a certificate. Only a well-balanced, healthy, kind human, who is the product of our love, life, insecurities and challenges.Blessing and life’s work all rolled in one.

As my hubby said

If both parents want to work and take care of their children the traditional roles need to overlap and merge.We both need to be mommy and daddy .The best from both !

Writing this for #MondayMommyMoments.

MondayMommy Moments Prompt this week:

What is the difference between a dad and mom when it comes to parenting?

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