What according to you is the hardest part of Motherhood?A difficult question for most moms.
“Birthing is the most profound initiation to spirituality a woman can have.” – Robin Lim
This may be true.But it is also the hardest thing I am doing.
Before I became a mother I had control issues.Let me be honest I still do.I have a sincerely persistent bone in my body which can’t let go.
But once I became a mother, every day has taught me to let go.
Let go of missing socks.Let go of untidy desks.Let go of maid not turning up.Let go of sleep.Let go of free time.
Let go of worrying about missed visits to the beauty parlor. Let go of nonissues which previously used to make me see red.
I have 2 important rules for doing or agreeing to do things:
Those that are good for me and my family.
Those which are not.
Is this good for my health?Or not.
For both the questions, anything which falls in the second category will need to go or reshaped.
Anything which falls in the second category will need to go.
When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” – Sophia Loren
But the biggest lesson is learning to let her fall and not rush to stop her from falling.Of letting her pick up the wrong color to color the sky.Of letting her learn to eat by herself.
“Kids don’t stay with you if you do it right. It’s the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won’t be needed in the long run.Barbara Kingsolver Click To Tweet
Letting go doesn’t happen suddenly all at once.
It doesn’t even happen one fine day.It happens every moment from the time we give birth.As your little one learns each new thing, to become independent, as a mother you learn to grow up too.Learn to see her not needing me so much.My job is to teach her to choose
You Learn to see her not needing you so much.Your job is to teach her to choose well, to choose wisely, to make good friends, so that one day she will not need you to hold her hand.All this you do with loads of hugs and kisses and life happens
But is this easy?Is tearing a piece of your heart easy?Is uprooting plants easy?Is hitting yourself with a ton of bricks easy?
But the right thing is rarely easy.
For me the hardest thing is this slow letting go that I must do, to make her independent, to teach her the right values.So that one day she will choose right without me telling her.
“Babies are bits of stardust blown from the hand of God. Lucky the woman who knows the pangs of birth for she has held a star.”Larry Barretto Click To Tweet
Writing this for #MondayMommyMoments this week.
This is the Tangy Tuesday pick at Blogadda and so are 2 other posts in the linky .One written by Neha tambe ,and the other by obsessive mom Tulika.
What according to you is the hardest part of Motherhood?
Monday Mommy Moments prompt: Hardest thing about motherhood
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