Life is full of surprises. There are times when situations overwhelm you and you feel you canโt take anymore and then suddenly youโre pleasantly surprised in the form of relief.
That is the break that sometimes keeps us from breaking apart.
At other times things just keep falling apart all around you while all you can do is helplessly look on, wondering what to do and what not to do.
What do you do at times like these? How do you keep it together when things all around you are falling apart?
Books, friends, family and personal experiences have taught us enough ways and means to cope up, but sometimes you need a neutral person to share their experiences to either give you new insight or just to give you an assurance that youโre handling yourself well when a crisis is threatening to topple you over.
These are my 10 Hacks that work
Some from the arsenal of my personal cope up mechanisms, while others that have been shared by people I have seen using and benefitting from them.
Take a shower, wear comfortable clothes:
You are wondering if you read right? Am I joking, is the question on your mind at this first hack? Let me assure you that I am not. Bathing is a soothing activity and associated with feeling fresh and starting anew, which is why most of us bathe each morning before we start our day. Bathing works on a subconscious level where it washes away all that was accumulated and helps us start afresh. Have a hot shower, shave if youโre a man, and wear your โcomfort clothesโ and you will notice you begin to feel better.
Keep yourself Nourished and Hydrated:
Anxiety robs you off your appetite and food is usually the last thing on your mind. And if you do eat in stressful times you tend to reach out for junk food and sugary treats. This choice is what gives you instant gratification, and as that wears off it increases your anxiety. Try and eat at fixed meal times and choose healthy food. Keep sipping on plain water through the day. When you keep yourself nourished and hydrated you feel better and when you feel better you can think clearer
Maintain a routine:
One of the first thing that tends to go haywire in times of stress is your routine. Sleepless nights mean drowsy days. Lack of proper sleep means fuzzy brains, which leads to attention and tolerance levels that dip dangerously low. All this adds up to make you feel worse than you already do. Maintain a routine. Lie down in bed at bedtime. If you canโt sleep, read a book. Set an alarm that would ring to wake you up at your usual time. A routine gives you a sense of control and maintains a sense of balance, and control and balance are good companions to have in a time of crisis.
Keep your circle small:
The more people you discuss your problem with the more you magnify it. Talking to different people means listening to varied advice from different sources, which just serves to makes you even more confused and vulnerable than you already feel in a difficult time. Speak to the least number of people, and people whom you can trust. People who know you well, who understand you, and who will tell you what you need to know and not what you want to hear.
Write it all down:
Writing down things puts them in better perspective. Make a list of all your blessings in life and you will slowly begin to realize that at any given time you have a lot more than you realize you do. The other thing to do is, write down how the current impossible situation in your life is making you feel, be brutally honest when you pen down your feelings. When done, rip the paper to shreds. This exercise serves to make you realize that you are bigger than your problems and you should control them instead of letting them control you.
Give yourself a stress corner and stress hour:
Thinking about the problem every waking moment does not help. Chalk out a stress time each day, for instance by giving yourself an hour to think about what steps to take towards solving it. Similarly, mark out a place at work or home, which should be the only place you are allowed to think about it. This may not seem easy to do, but it is not an impossible task either. As once you manage to do so all other hours of your day and areas of your living and work environment become stress-free zones.
Change of scene, divert your mind:
Watch a movie or a play. Go for a night out with friends or do something new and fun. Try a new activity that youโve always wanted to. Enroll in a hobby course, something that would keep your hands busy and mind concentrating on it, like Quilling or Wood work to give an example. Creating something is a confidence booster and apart from boosting your confidence, youโre learning a new skill.
Breathe:
When you concentrate and take deep breaths they supply oxygen to your brain, and oxygenation of the brain reduces anxiety levels. Deep breathing also calms you down and relieves tension. Regular deep breathing also helps you sleep. Whenever you feel overwhelmed, breathe.
Remind yourself you are a survivor:
Weโve all been through situations we thought we would never face. Weโve all survived what we thought would take us down. It may have been a very difficult time or times, but we survived them, didnโt we? What makes you think you wonโt surpass this one too? You can and you will chin up!
Walk away, if you canโt salvage it:
If after doing your best and trying everything you can there still seems to be no end in sight or no way to salvage the situation then it is wise to walk away. Remember, walking away is not always a sign of weakness but when done wisely it is a sign of strength.
About the author:
Mayuri Nidigallu is a Tarot Card Reader by profession and a Writer by design. Since she is already aware of what the future holds, she enjoys unwrapping the present.You can find her at sirimiri.in
Linking this post with #MondayMusings
Disclaimer : The opinions in this post belong to the author and is meant as a general wellness advice and not a professional consultation.Healthwealthbridge does not take any responsibility for the opinions expressed and cannot be held responsible for any effects due to following them.Kindly consult a professional if you are unable to cope and having a breakdown.
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mahekg says
Some good points to keep in mind
Christopher James Mitchell says
This post is fantastic. Thanks so much, I think you bring up some really strong points. One thing that’s so important is staying hydrated, it’s totally underrated!
Lakisha says
A bathe can truly save the day! Every night I light my candles and try to enjoy at least 20 minutes of uninterrupted time while listening to a guided meditation! It works wonders! Totally clears my mind and calms my body.
Ana Ojha says
Some great tips! Whenever I’m too stressed and feel so low, I go for running and it helps me to feel better!
Shalini (@kohleyedme) says
Some fantastic tips by Mayuri. I try to do most of them, including taking a power nap which helps! Thanks for featuring her, Amrita.
Blair Villanueva says
Thank you for these awesome ideas. I need these especiallh when am ultra stressed and my ultimate stress reliever is not available ๐ kudos!
Tasheena-Nicole Johnson says
These are great tips. I really enjoyed reading this post. I believe it’s always very important to take some ” Me Time ” .
Anosa says
I have used almost of these coping mechanisms before and they have worked in different situations by one thing which is constant is I always write it down
Deimarys says
Taking a bath, wearing comfy clothe and writing things down it’s definitely the way I like to relax myself.
Amanda says
All of these tips are incredibly helpful and actually work. My two favorite are taking a shower and having a routine. Taking showers is probably my number one favorite thing to do ever! It is so relaxing and makes me feel so refreshed afterwards. Having a routine is essential. I am not the best at sticking to it but when I do I feel more organized and accomplished.
deepagandhi says
Great points Mayuri. I completely agree with all of them especially keep your circle small one. If I am upset with something I can never go and discuss it with somebody or any body. I make sure not to discuss my problems too much. I have to try taking a cold Shower one. ๐
Erin (@FaithFoodFamFun) says
I love that you mentioned to write it down. This is the one thing I do on the regular. It really helps me to see where I’ve been and where I’m going. Plus, I can see any progress I’ve made also!
Vasantha Vivek says
Great post, Mayuri. Thanks Amrita for featuring this post. My choices are having a routine, write out and breath. It helps me to let go, be grounded and be more productive.
dramrita says
Thank you
Amber says
I love this! Wearing comfy clothes is easy for me. It’s all I do! Writing also helps to keep me sane.
Lux G. says
I wish someone told me these things before. Haha.
Thank you so much. Learning a lot from here.
Mayuri Nidigallu says
Thanks for featuring me on your blog, Amrita! Love writing for you!:)
Tina Basu says
Great hacks for life to keep it simple and fruitful
scribblingjournal says
Great tips.. I believe anything can be solved by a hot shower (if you are in cold country ๐ )