What according to you is the hardest part of Motherhood?A difficult question for most moms.
“Birthing is the most profound initiation to spirituality a woman can have.” – Robin Lim
This may be true.But it is also the hardest thing I am doing.
Before I became a mother I had control issues.Let me be honest I still do.I have a sincerely persistent bone in my body which can’t let go.
But once I became a mother, every day has taught me to let go.
Let go of missing socks.Let go of untidy desks.Let go of maid not turning up.Let go of sleep.Let go of free time.
Let go of worrying about missed visits to the beauty parlor. Let go of nonissues which previously used to make me see red.
I have 2 important rules for doing or agreeing to do things:
Those that are good for me and my family.
Those which are not.
Is this good for my health?Or not.
For both the questions, anything which falls in the second category will need to go or reshaped.
Anything which falls in the second category will need to go.
When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child.” – Sophia Loren
But the biggest lesson is learning to let her fall and not rush to stop her from falling.Of letting her pick up the wrong color to color the sky.Of letting her learn to eat by herself.
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Letting go doesn’t happen suddenly all at once.
It doesn’t even happen one fine day.It happens every moment from the time we give birth.As your little one learns each new thing, to become independent, as a mother you learn to grow up too.Learn to see her not needing me so much.My job is to teach her to choose
You Learn to see her not needing you so much.Your job is to teach her to choose well, to choose wisely, to make good friends, so that one day she will not need you to hold her hand.All this you do with loads of hugs and kisses and life happens
But is this easy?Is tearing a piece of your heart easy?Is uprooting plants easy?Is hitting yourself with a ton of bricks easy?
But the right thing is rarely easy.
For me the hardest thing is this slow letting go that I must do, to make her independent, to teach her the right values.So that one day she will choose right without me telling her.
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They learn only when they fall but watching them fall is the most hurtful.Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Such a wonderful prompt ..making everyone positive with the learnings ..letting go is really the hardest and I am still not able to do it at certain situations.
Thanks Anubhuti
Such a beautiful post Amrita, kids and their ‘clashes’ on being independent is quite challenging. I am learning the control on daily basis now, however sometimes – letting go is toughest.
Also, as a mother on this generation means un-learning many things we learned from our moms.
That’s another challenge unlearning.Sometimes even more difficult than learning.
This is such a wonderful prompt. All moms would have something to say on this.
Yours is a very thoughtful post. Letting go is one of the most difficult things to do but once done it helps to solve many problematic situations.
What a wonderful post, I’m not a Mother but I can imagine that letting go is one of the hardest things to do. I think letting go in general in life is the hardest thing to do.
Letting go is tough especially when you know its wrong for them, but it has to be done. Also deciding on when to step in and when to stay away is a tight-rope walk.
Loved Ur post , yes it is mother’s duty to grow the child as an independent individual who can himself /herself judge between right n wrong
Yes, the hardest part of motherhood is letting go of things. When you nurture your child every day like a small seedling, you want them to be as beautiful as nature. And that is in the hands of destiny.
As a mom, I know its difficult to let go. But it is important for kids to make them strong and independent. Motherhood is hard but worth it. 🙂
I think that being a mom is the hardest part itself! Hats off to all those wonderful moms who balances their work and life and also, maintain their sanity!
When a child is not controlled much, they get a feeling of been trusted and responsible. And I have seen kids been more open to their parents when they’re given enough freedom and not controlled much. Like Rajlakshmi said, I am not a Mother yet, so no practical knowledge. But I liked your post. It’s a very relevant topic.
Hmm… letting go is totally a hard thing to do. I’m not a mom, but as a child I feel like I am constantly encouraging (who am I kidding, begging), but mom to just chill and stop fussing over everything. Do you ever really let go though?
Difficult question.Maybe impossible.
I absolutely love that quote by Sophia Loren! It is so true—when you are a mother, you become selfless and think of our kid’s wellbeing first. Motherhood is one of the most difficult jobs in the world, but also so rewarding.
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Letting go is also being practiced by me for the last 5 years. It gave me good results. I too agree ….. motherhood has the toughest yet most responsible tasks. Loved reading post. And happy to join with you on #MMM.
Thanks Vasantha
Letting go is so hard for a mother. I don’t have kids but I recently went nomadic and live around the world. It was so hard telling my mother about my move and I saw how difficult it was for her to let go too.
Yes very true.
I’m not a mother and won’t be for awhile but I can imagine it’s hoping that your kids turn out to be good people. I’m a former educator and worry about the decisions my former students will make as they get older. I can only pray for them.
Yes we can pray .
Interesting question. It takes a strong mother to let her child go. Some moms still struggle with this even with their children are adults.
Thanks Corinne
Oh yes, letting go is a tough one for me. I usually want to do everything for my kids and I have to remind myself that I can’t. They have to learn on their own.
That is very difficult
I´m not a mother yet but I can imagine how hard it must be to let a child go that means everything to you!
Thanks Stefanie
Well, letting go is so important for the independence of children, but often times mother’s forget to. Glad that you are adept at it already.
Thanks Bhavya
A beautiful post on letting go. And I have seen that kids grow more independent if not controlled all the time. They grow a strong personality from the beginning. Since I am not a mother yet, can’t add much to the topic, but a well written article 🙂
Thanks Rajlakshmi