Six things I learned in six years as a Mommy is a six months overdue post.No one except life experiences can teach you to be a mom. You can read all the books, blogs, and magazines. You can take parenting classes and online course (yes you can do that too) and still misses one crucial tip.
This tip is what makes mommyhood so much fun and an adventure at the same time.
The super tip:
Your child is clueless about the rules of the game.S he comes into the world with the full expectation of getting her own way, of being loved, cared for and wanted. Every child is different.How they will react to the environment will be revealed one situation at a time. Mommyhood and parenting, in general, is a maze, blessing and a treasure hunt at the same time.
6 Things I learned in 6 years as a Mommy
#1 You are the best mother for your child. Don’t compare yourself with anyone else. You are amazing and doing great . Say this aloud every time you struggle with hidden fears and I guarantee you will feel better.The other option doesn’t exist because the Universe found you perfect!
#2 Don’t believe everything you are told by your mommy friends.
If it’s about health, wellness or baby development talks to your doctor.
If it’s about learning skills talk to the teacher and the doctor.
If it’s about social skills and environmental adaptation: Talk to your parent or a sibling who is a parent or someone whom you know to be a good parent. Then if those tips don’t work talk to your doctor.
What you may not know is that childhood learning and social skills give a clue about developmental milestones in children. Rather than depend on unauthorized sources consult someone with the credentials to give you definitive advice. The first 1000 days of life for children are crucial and you can’t waste time with experimental therapy.
Super tip: If the baby can’t express what the problem is , you have to be a super sleuth to find out what’s wrong .Get help sooner rather than later. You have nothing to lose.
#3 You better walk the talk.Those little eyes see you and are award-winning detectives at intuitive skills They know when you are bluffing it. Being your best version helps you ace mommyhood and get those self-improvement goals going too. This one works for me because I see its easier to make my daughter clean-up and declutter when I take care to do it too.
One thing I taught her from when she was two:
Pick up your toys and put it back after playing. If it’s coming under mommy’s foot it’s going to be swept into the bin.
Believe me, this works. But the age of starting this habit is crucial.
#4 Focus on enjoying those cuddles and kisses.The best part of motherhood is the unquestioning love. It’s a beautiful blessing to be wholeheartedly loved.I am sure you will agree, this feeling makes everything worthwhile. Those sleepless nights and distress calls to mom, seem like a part of growing up as a mom.
#5 Education and learning habits, you need to start early. Make it fun but focus on skill sets. If you don’t teach her, who will? The earlier you can make learning fun the better it is for her. Children are like super sponges.T hey love learning new things and can persist forever. The best thing to do is to let them explore
- Guide them
- Teach them
- Give them loads of books as gifts suitable for their age.
- Let them see you reading and learning.
- Focus not only on learning but also on enjoying the process.
Language, music, maths, storytelling skills, building skills are all important. Cognitive reserve and IQ developed at multiple levels in the brain. The more diverse the learning, the more enjoyable the process becomes. It also becomes more unique. Those skills and hobbies help in multiple ways.
#6 Discipline is important and best before 5 years of age. Children are smart and their brain like yours respond to positive and negative stimulus. Discipline need not be harsh. It is a necessary part of being happy and growing up well balanced in life. Children learn discipline at a young age and the brain interestingly responds best to these stimuli if you start before the age of five years. After this golden period, the battle is more uphill.
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