How to win friendsย and influence people is a life tools book.
It’s ย 275 pages of people gold.Each word is worth memorizing.
That’s why I am taking so much time to review this book,that too backward.This not a typical book review or summary .I amย trying to highlight the parts which have helped me, become mentally stronger ย , more emotionally stable and get things done.
Nobody at home or school really teaches us toย deal beautifully with people.But all through life we need other people.
Friends, family,colleagues ,people whom we dislike,and those who dislike us,all are important to get things done.You really don’t know .
To get what you want,and leave the other person feelingย great , is not an easy skill to develop.
You spend time thinking how to make your hubby agree to the vacation ย plan.How to make your children eat up their veggies.How to make your boss agree to work from home.
I struggle with this all the time.I have realized, other people’s wisdomย can help us in this journey.That’s where this book is a gem.
So how can you win people over to your way of thinking?
Such an importantย skill,so few of us learn.
If you have watched the movie Inception (starringย Leonardo DiCaprio),you will know the power of ย thought planted in your brain.
In reality too, your ย thought is all-powerful.
If you want someone to do what you want,the idea has to come from his/her brain .
No amount of forcing or cajoling can get it done, unless his/ her mind says so.Simple right?
For all of usย ย ,this is ย a ย job requiring lots of patience,sympathy and ingenuity.The second and third is easier to develop than the first.But all are equallyย important.
To get the full benefit of Dale Carnegie ‘sย wisdom, you have to read the book.But for those who want a shortcut,maybe I can help.
ย Few pearls of wisdom from the 3rdย section of the book
โDealing with people depends on sympathetic graspย of other person’s viewpoint.
Other people may be totally wrong .But they don’t think so. It’s no use trying to condemn them we have to try to understand ,them because only wiseย tolerant exceptional people even try to do that.
โOne thing from the book if you remember:
Try honestly thinkingย from the other person’s point of view. I would rather walk the sidewalk in front of a person’s office for 2 hours before an interview, than step into that office without a perfectly clear idea of what I was going to say and what that person from my knowledge of his or her interest and motivesย was likely to answer.
โMagic phrase that can stop arguments:
” I don’t blame you one one iota for feeling as you do .If I were you I would feel just as you do .”
โLearn from experience the enormous chemical valueย of sympathy inย neutralizing the acid of hard feelings.
โBe sympathetic with the other persons ideas and desires.
โAppeal to the nobler motives.
โDramatise your ideas
The way to get things done is to stimulate competition, the desire to excel, the challenge.
Without a challenge most things will never get done .
โAll men have fears but the brave put downย their fears and go forward sometimes to death but always to victory .
โWhat every successful person loves is the game ,the chance of self expression to prove this word to excel to win .
Have you read this book ,what’s your favourite ย part?
Comment ย below to let me know.
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Abby says
Love this – it could be very useful in the blogging scene too. It is important to have a voice that will influence other people to become successful at blogging.
Jemma @ Celery and Cupcakes says
This sounds like such a great book. Definitely one for the wishlist.
Jasmine Watts says
Thanks for wonderful review!! I love reading books and it sounds like a great read!!
dramrita says
Yes the book is great .Very glad you liked it.
Brianna Leigh says
Definitely an important skill to learn!
dramrita says
It was very important for me too.????
Meg Kerns says
Getting the toddler to eat his veggies- you had me there! If we can be successful there- I’m in!
dramrita says
Yes agreed 100%.You have whine,blackmail offer goodies and then they will have one bite????
Anne says
I haven’t read the book yet! But I would love too (and only 275 pages). It seems so memorable and such great advice!
dramrita says
Thanks Anne.Glad you liked it
Kayvona says
Sounds like a good book to read. We all can use friendship tips. It never gets old!
dramrita says
You are so right Kayvona. I am glad we are friends too.????
Aly says
I haven’t read this book, but it is on my list. After reading your post I will have to download it onto my Kindle right away!
dramrita says
How sweet of you to say this.Definitely post back here after you read it.Love to know what you thought.
(I love kindle too,it’s a moms lifesaver)