First published on February 13, 2017 on Women’s Web.
Strong women don’t let men tell them what they can do and what they can’t. They simply do what they have to.


“A woman is like a tea bag – you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.”– Eleanor Roosevelt

This is the story of a single mother, who raised her daughters, educated them and made them independent, despite the pickle life put her in.


We live in a society where a woman is relegated to a life of anonymity, self pity and remorse if she becomes a widow. As if a woman’s entire existence and happiness is dependent on a man beside her.

But ‘she’ chose not to follow the usual; she chose to become a ‘non-conformist’. Despite her family being against the education of her daughters after her husband’s death, she decided to go ahead with it. She not only shows us the value of education, but also the importance of working and being financially independent.


Her story also points out to the ugly truth — the difficulty girls in India still face just to get the right of education. Even today people ask why a girl child needs to be educated? She is after all going to manage home and family. Why spending money on schools for girls?

As Brigham Young rightly puts, “You educate a man; you educate a man. You educate a woman; you educate a generation.”

Educating the girl child can help fight poverty, maternal mortality, infant mortality, gender inequality and improve the socio-economic state of our country. Educated women take better care of their family. The Indian Government’s campaign ‘Ladli’ is a promising initiative which if implemented properly can go a long way.


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DrAmrita Basu Misra
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I wrote about Ulrike on Women’s Web in Feb 20 2017

Then her visa got cancelled because of certain legalities about her visa and the work she was doing.But one of her messages struck a chord.

Indian men have a massive sense of entitlement when it comes to showing superiority over women. Ulrike Reinhard wants them to learn a very important lesson.

We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” –Elie Wiesel

Being a woman in India is a tough job; life is practically an everyday struggle, thanks to the patriarchal mindset of the Indian society. On the other hand being a man in India means living a life of privilege and entitlement; as if they own the entire space, whether it is in the family, at the workplace or in public.


This sense of entitlement is hard-wired into every male child in an Indian household. Yes, it is true that ‘male entitlement’ is a global phenomenon and not India centric; yet in India this sense manifests itself to epic proportions. In India, street harassment doesn’t restrict itself only to catcalls. It spills over to constant commentary, women facing extreme sexual innuendoes and also facing clear threats of misogynistic violence in everyday life.

Ulrike Reinhard comes from Germany and helps educate children in Panna in Madhya Pradesh. She recently opened up in her Facebook status update on how she faced street harassment on the streets of Panna and how the ‘male entitlement sense’ in the mind of the perpetrator works on Indian streets.


While walking down a crowded market place she was touched repeatedly by a young man. When confronted by Ulrike Reinhard, the impunity of the boy left her baffled. The behaviour of this boy brings to focus the sad state of Indian society. Young boys and men in general feel bad behaviour or molestation are their birth right. Women of any age are and can be subjected to ridicule and assault. And we women think it is best to keep quiet, ignore and do nothing about it.


But Ulrike Reinhard decided not to go with this ‘normal’. She instead took the boy to task and did something so inspiring that might help changing the way the boy, his parents and society in general think and view women. Her action reinstates the call of the hour – if we need change we need to take matters into our own hands.