How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie,  is part of the syllabus at many business schools.

Its among the list of top books to read if you are starting a biz.I started reading it because self improvement is my favourite life goal.But reading it once is not enough .Thats why I am writing the book summary in small bits .Just the way I am revising it.

To call it a biz book ,is like  calling the Indian Ocean a pond.Its a life book.

Must read if you want to be great at  whatever you do .

The book is only 275 pages .But its not just  words.The quotes,experiences  leap out of the pages and get embedded in your brain.It’s best if you read the book. But if not I will try to help.

The book is divided into 4 parts with important lessons.

My book summaries are for those who dont have time to read

Part 1 is about fundamental techniques in handling people.

Part 1 has 3 lifehacks :

# Lifehack 1

“Don’t criticize condemn or complain.Nobody likes being criticized  because it hurts  the ego”

is Dale Carnegie’s favourite advice.

Often you must have seen people get aggressive or adamant when we rebuke them.Even my 4 year old ,little girl is more difficult to manage if scolded publicly.So just like you the other persons ego has his self worth .You just cannot ever hurt it.Never.Ever.

Atleast if you want him to do what you want!

People like to be publicly praised and if criticism if needed,best to do it in private.

This is a very difficult thing to keep in mind .But what is there in life except trial and error.

#Lifehack 2

Give honest and sincere appreciation.

The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be  appreciated .

History shows people like belonging to groups,gangs .Because it makes them feel wanted,appreciated,needed.Words of appreciation is  music to the ear.

But can you always give sincere praise?If not its better not to say anything.Each of us are capable of understanding insincerity intuitively.

Appreciation comes from the heart, so it rings true

.False flattery is just lip service.

#Lifehack 3

Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Example :The festival discounts on amazon!

They know how much people need to save money.But really  want to shop.So they give us what we want and need.

People who can put themselves in the other people’s place have empathy.They generally can get people to agree to their plans because they know what people want.

In business and in life ,its important to know what others want.Because very rarely does anyone care about what you want.To get ahead in life you need to know the first.To be happy in life you need both.

Tell me  what you think about these lifehacks in the comments below.

Read also the other parts of the book summary

How to win friends and influence people :Book review (part 3)

HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE : 3 QUOTES TO INSPIRE YOU

The Go-Giver is a 127-page book with some of the most powerful thoughts you will ever come across.You will get a book summary and review soon.But for this Microblog Monday post, I couldn’t  help writing about this book.

It’s after reading this book and trying to imbibe them in my life that amazing things have happened.

I believe in good and bad “karma” so this book reinforced everything  I believed and taught me some more.
The authors call them “The 5 Laws of Stratospheric Success”.
I especially like the word stratospheric.????

The best thing about studying the works of successful people is that their teachings can often help you avoid many pitfalls.

#”Givers like to Give,  that’s why they are  attractive”.

Whether in business or life only if we learn from others mistake can we avoid making a few mistakes.
Life is too short to make all mistakes, yourself and then learn.

 #”The Most Valuable gift you have to offer is yourself”

Be it family, profession or the social media, everywhere we are offering ourselves.You can call it service or selling.But it’s always you.

This is called the “Law of Authenticity.”

#”The Key to Effective Giving Is to Stay Open to Receiving”

The secret to getting is actually giving.If every person in this world thought about helping another person.Each of us would be helped.

When every person is thinking about another person, there’s always someone somewhere looking out for you.
Such a powerful thought in such a little book.

#”Your Influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first”

But how often do you place other people’s interest first?

It’s difficult.

“Your income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them”

In school, our Carmelite Sisters would teach us the golden lessons of serving those who need us.Didn’t  understand that success in life comes from helping others.

From this book , if you don’t remember anything remember this.

That’s why online entrepreneurship is so attractive.There’s no limit to how many people you can help.Have you read this book?

Write your favorite book quote in the comments below.

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