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Will I Ever be Good Enough?Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers-A book review
Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers by Karyl McBride is another book I read in January.
Book BlurbWill I Ever be Good Enough?Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
From experienced family therapist Dr. Karyl McBride, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? is an essential guide to recovery for women with selfish, emotionally abusive, and toxic mothers—designed to help daughters reclaim their lives. The first book for daughters who have suffered the abuse of narcissistic, self-involved mothers, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life. Drawing on more than two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women’s health and hundreds of interviews with suffering daughters, Dr. Karyl McBride helps you recognize the widespread effects of this emotional abuse and create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery. Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness. They may also have a fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy romantic relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism or to self-sabotage and frustration. Dr. McBride’s step-by-step program will enable you to: (1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage (3) Construct a personalized program to take control of your life and enhance your sense of self, establishing healthy boundaries with your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse Warm and sympathetic, Dr. McBride brings a profound level of authority to Will I Ever Be Good Enough? that encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery.
My Book Review of Will I Ever be Good Enough?Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers
I usually don’t read books with turmoil. But this was for a good cause and I couldn’t say no.
The book speaks from the author’s heart.She is a professional but hers is also a lived experience. The proverbial scientist experimenting with self diagnosis and self healing.We all do it to some extent and a lot of problem can be helped with a good dose of introspection.
But remember many health problems especially mental health problems need a professional evaluation and not a search engine .
Disclaimer this is not a medical advice and always consult your doctor for professional personalized care.
Narcissism is difficult to identify.The narcissistic personality spectrum can range from a few traits to a full blown narcissistic personality.
The children of narcissistic parents suffer and carry the legacy of not being good enough for a lifetime.
Therapy ,a loving partner and God’s help is all needed for arriving on the other side.If the chain is not broken the circle of narcissism spills over to the next generation genetically (which we can’t really control) and environmentally (which we can control).
Healthy self love and self image is crucial for survival.Lack of self confidence can be crippling.
The author delves deep into the issues of why this trait in a parent can be harmful.How you can identify it.What to do and steps to protect your soul from.The overachiever and the self sabotager we all have both versions inside us.What will you let rise?
There’s only one answer.To truly rise above a narcissistic legacy becoming successful,creating distance and making peace(with help/therapy) is a journey through life.The narcissistic parent may never accept medical help or even agree she has a problem.Insight may be lacking and there in lies your power to change the legacy .If you think you need help ,get help.
Great book a must read for those who struggle with a loved one /parent being narcissistic.
Spending time alone helps focus on ownself and self heal
Slowing down is medicine
No trust without your relationship picker
Permanent parenthood
Breaking the cycle is challenging.
Who should read this book?
Who wants to know more about narcissistic personality spectrum and how it can affect relationships.
If you have trouble with a close relationships whom you suspect is a closet narcissist and you want to work at the relationship and also help yourself heal.
You suspect your own narcissistic trait is spilling over into your parenting or other relations( you will be a rare person).
You want it to gift it to someone whom you think is stuck in a loop with a narcissistic person.
For helping in possible self-healing PTSD in adults who had a narcissistic parent.
Sharing is good Karma!
The Blue Zones 9 Lessons for living Longer Book Review: Book Review
I was hearing about the Blue zones everywhere. But I had no intention of watching the documentary,I wanted the source. That’s why I decided to read the book. The Blue Zones 9 Lessons for living Longer by Dan Buettner.The best part about the book is, it focuses on food habits and longevity secrets from both the East and the West. Boiled down, its about eating healthy, and less meat seems to be a big takeaway.
Estimated reading time: 3 minutes
11 Nuggets of Wisdom from the Book
- Less meat
- More nuts
- Daily exercise or gardening.
- Eating fresh
- Having a reason to live or the ikigai.
- A well knit social connection where laughter, community building and kindred spirits help move things along well.
- Drink more water (6 to 8 glasses daily but what’s the size of the glass?)
- The long-term power of eating unprocessed food. Eat fewer calories light dinner
- Light dinner early in the evening
- Everyday physical chore
- Naps? 3 times a week 30 minutes or so.
When do you get up? When the sun rises.
When do you sleep? When the sun sets
Work for health or wealth.The secrets of timeless congeniality and socializationWhat grows in Nicoyan garden?Corn, beans,papaya orange.
Okinawa has ikigai .Costa Rican talk about and plan di vida-strong sense of purpose.
What works for me
The book is written a very lucid language and takes us on a journey with the author as he delves into the lives of the centenarians in different countries. The language and culture barriers make things slow but our author is determined. He visits Okinawa, the Greek blue zone, American blue zone, and a few others while sharing tips on how to create your blue zone.
- The positive message and the author’s intent of spreading the right message
- Well written with engaging personal stories which helps to keep the pace interesting
- Lucid language
- Good book cover.
A few things need work
Charlie Munger was 99 when he died.I want to know what he ate and what he did daily too. He was a billionaire who managed one of the world’s biggest investment companies and lived an active life making money. None of the people our author interviewed had a modern-day life story like him.It was mostly in out-of-the-way places, people who didn’t have the trappings of modern life or a career as such. For most people, the connection to the people interviewed will be lacking,even though their simple eating and simple living will resonate. Few of us can manage to live in a mountain village rearing goats and eating the same food every day even with the best company. So there’s a need for examples from the world as we know it too.
In the blue zones, many seemed to hear and see less as they grow older and those functions are crucial for good quality of life and fighting dementia. I found no mention of the use of aids for seeing better or hearing aids to help those who didn’t hear so well. Both of which improve quality of life,overall functionality and brain functions.
The data presented is mostly hearsay and even the bibliography lacks hard data. That saying it’s interesting that the author received a budget for traveling and doing the work he did. Goes to show that longevity research has a lot of interest and everyone wants an option to do it right where they are.
Living longer and better is a wonderful goal to have.
Give this book a reading when you can do so with an open mind, otherwise, you might fall victim to a different sort of bias. A flag bearer of time-proven common sense advice that would benefit everyone when backed by more scientific data.
