Feminism means wanting equality for women .Till I was a mother, I was a vocal feminist.But once I became a mom to a tiny pink bundle of joy, I realized some truths.

All employers while recruiting women, keep one thing in mind. Whether you are going to have a child anytime soon, or are a mom.

Whether they will actually say so, will depend on the category of  MCP  they belong to.Men will always forget they have a mom, while disapproving child care leave to women.If you are a woman and don’t want a family , you will be judged.

Yes, you will be judged by everybody. Male,female ,young ,old.They will wonder why?They will check out how you look and behave.

Do men face this?Sure they do.But not in the same way, right?

If you are married they will judge you.If you have children and want to spend time with them, they will judge.

If you leave them at daycare they will judge.Plus you will also judge yourself. If you are ambitious and want to do well ,they will cast aspersions on your ability to manage home and family.

If you are highly educated ,they will doubt your matrimonial suitability.

Now the question arises who are they?

They are not just men.There are plenty of women whose daily pass time include, dissecting other women.Bringing down their moraleTearing apart their dreams and aspirations.

There are also men, who understand what you are going through. Men who help .Not because you are a pretty female, but because you are a human being who is asking for help.

As a humanist ,I want to be a good doctor and help the people who need me.

I want to be a wonderful teacher for my students.I want to be my hubby’s partner in all his battles .

I also want to do all this, with my little girl happy , well cared for and growing up to be a strong woman.

The only way to teach her to be strong is to be strong myself. A difficult job.But one that must be done

During my life here on earth,I have befriended men and women.I married my best friend .Another veryclose friendd is a man.In fact  this friend is my hubby’s friend too for the last 17 years.

With men like these I have realized one thing .They are good human beings  .

I  never could tolerate  chauvinism .Neither could I tolerate the damsel in distress thing.But sometimes in life we may be women needing help.

That’s when we need men /women in shining armours to save  us.I  have a few such wonderful men and women in  my life.If God wanted all to be equal,he would have made us so.Once he made men ,God realized for any life to make a difference, it needed the power to create miracles.

That’s when he made women.

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I want to be a woman,  who can have all the rights she wants.As a child and young woman equal rights will do.

But as a mom I want to have more rights .Special rights .Yes I want it all!That’s what I would do if I had superpowers. Because if women stop being moms, humanity will perish.

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