I grew up in a typical Bengali middle class family.
With wants and needs being finely balanced by the monthly salary .
Though my parents were both working ,it was my mom who managed all household expenses.
My father’s salary mysteriously always found other uses.It was never spent on the household needs or our requirement for school stuff.
It wasn’t that he was a bad father .It was just that he didn’t care enough.
He suffered from occasional bouts of depression and swinging manic phases.
I didn’t know what I hated most !
When he wouldn’t get out of bed or when he would come home at midnight.
Either way my mom had it tough.
Bringing up two daughters single handedly.
Luckily we had plenty of guardian angels looking over us .
That’s why we survived.
We survived our home almost being auctioned by the credit card company.
We survived social humiliation.
We survived heartbreaks.
I always believed in God .
I always believed I would one day help people .How I was helped,I remembered .
I remembered all the time.Forgetting it, would make me weak.
That’s why I knew, I wanted to be a doctor.
Do you call that Serendipity?
Being a doctor, life is different.
You see the pain ,the suffering ,the helplessness and hopelessness of so many people.
Doctors have to maintain a clinical distance and still have empathy .That’s a tough balance.
By embracing the pain and helplessness of my childhood as blessings I have carved out my life.It’s no use protecting children from sadness,conflict, rejection and dejection.It’s no use altering reality .It’s definitely no use lying to them.
Because ultimately we are the sum total of our experiencs .Good ,bad,ugly and the truly horrible!
I think it was destiny and serendipity that I have the emotional strength to practice being a doctor.
Because if life was easy ,I don’t think I could have made it this far.
I am thankful for being a doctor .I am thankful for this opportunity to make a difference.
Because I believe
The blessed are helped
The truly blessed can help.
Do you believe in destiny ?
Comment below to let me know .
Writing this for the Blogchatter prompt Serendipity .
UBC day 29
Thank you for sharing your experience, I could relate to being raised by our mother single handedly even though daddy was there his money did the disappearing thing too
Thanks for sharing your story Anosa .
Amrita, It takes courage to share your story with the world. I believe, we all are shaped by our experiences in lives and all the hardships that we face make us stronger.
Yes that’s true Neha.Thanks for reading.
You are a very strong person Amrita and very good by heart. Always inspiring
Thanks
As a person of faith – I believe in destiny! This is your calling and your past experience served the place of preparation. Its the sacrifice of people like you who have been through something that brings about the change and innovation we see today.
Thanks Kristina
Amrita, I think the difficulties and tough times we go through makes us who we are . Your hardships perhaps make you value financial independence and the importance of kindness .
I am a believer in destiny too and every action and every choice we make leads us to what we are destined for .. sooner or later it comes to us.
Absolutely true.I want to be financially free from the bottom of my heart.Our experiences are indeed our blessings.
I don’t believe in destiny so much as determination and strength. I think a person can have a plan or path but they only achieve it with determination, strength and hard work. Congratulations on becoming a doctor, you obviously possess all of these qualities! Nikki x
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Thank you ????
I admire your strength and fortitude for not getting down. Rising up and keeping your belief is just amazing… Keep the spirit and always keep smiling Amrita ????
Thanks Shalini ????
I do believe in destiny whether it’s good or bad. There doesn’t have to be a logical explanation it just is what it is.
That’s an interesting way of thinking ????
I do believe in destiny to a point. I think it’s wonderful that you’re a doctor. I imagine it can be a difficult job.
Yes it can be difficult but ypu get to watch miracles ????
Yes it can be difficult but you get to watch miracles ????
I think we are own creators of our destiny,if we strive towards what we believe and if we trying and make effort we will reach the goal. We all have life opportunities and we choose in which direction we will going to.
Yes we choose.So destiny is ultimately a sum of your choices
I believe God has a plan for you and those guardian angels were sent by Him to cover you and your family.
Yes I believe that too ????
You know I believed in God, without him we won’t have everything we have in our life now. We won’t be breathing or even existed in this world.
Absolutely true .I am thankful for that everyday
Beautifully written & very inspiring story. I really loved when you said “Because if life was easy, I don’t think I could have made it this far.” What a great perspective.
Thanks Rashida.
I believe in time and unforeseen occurrences, but not necessarily in destiny per se. Our life experiences shape the choices we make. Our choices ultimately shape our lives- and for the good or the bad – our decisions often affect the lives of others. Then the process starts all over again – sometimes in several places at once.
That’s the cycle of life
Such a well written article and interesting read, I think I do believe in destiny!
Thank you
I think we all have something to be thankful about for something in our lives. Even those who you think may be more knowledgeable, wealthier and better than you, they too have had their hardships in life. It’s something we all have to deal with and that just helps us to become stronger
Yes that’s very true.
The tough life gives courage to live and it’s true we shouldn’t keep kids away from realit. Reality n truth make them bold and stronger. Everyone has to face ups n downs in life at any point of time, just we did to be patient n bold to face the trying times. When we don’t complain for the good times then why should we crib for difficult ones.
Good to know more about you. It was the tough time that made you stronger n u r sympathetic towards humanity.
God bless.
Thanks Ila .Very wise words ????
Yes Amrita. I believe in destiny. When something is bound to be yours, nothing came in between. It will be yours when the time is right.
Thanks Getthica