Relationships are always tricky and just like parenting, marriage too is difficult to categorize or handle according to rules. But when you marry a friend, things help somewhat .
Why marry a friend
..and ruin a friendship will be the comment of many a cynical people .But that’s what makes this relationship work .
Despite knowing the odds when people who are friends do get married , they already know the things they like about the person (he is a friend).They also know what they don’t like and probably has already told them about it at great lengths .Despite all this, if your friendship has survived two years or more and you have good chemistry, then it could be a keeper .But there should be no ambivalence about whether you like someone better .
That’s a red flag .If you have a 2 am friend which is not this person then think again. I might be wrong but eventually you would want to let your 2am friend have a life too .That is if you are a good friend and don’t want to destroy their love life.
A friend who marries you,
…marries you after knowing you .
…have seen you behave well and not so well.
…loves you even after seeing you at your worst .
… loves you whole; both for your strength and despite your weakness.
…likes your company .(crucial)
… lets you talk (if you are a talker).
… really listens(or pretends to listen most realistically) most of the time.
The Tricky part
They know you inside out and can probably read your mind too.On a bad day this means they know ,when you really mean what you say.