Parents are like gardeners .As a parent we help grow future citizens of our human society.
Children grow up watching their parents.
They learn about relationships from their parents.But can things be forced?
Relationships are what they are.You have to work on them to make them beautiful.Loving parents help make a loving child.When parents are loving towards each other,the child feels secure in the cocoon of love.Disagreements are inevitable.But its important that differences in opinion are resolved without ugliness.
The only way to do that is to work on yourself.When each member of family tries to make the home a happy one,it will be a Happy home.
So what do you need to grow a happy family?
Can you really grow a happy family?What if you were never a part of one?You can always learn .Right?You can l;earn to do anyrthing.Its the unlearning of bad reactions that need working on!
Respect each other
Not only husband and wife ,but the little one needs to be respected.His/her thoughts and feelings are as important as any adults .You are the one to teach her about respect.
Listen to each other
If your husband listens to you ,believe me you have been blessed.Men have a strange habit of tuning off when women rant.Its important you make eye contact while discussing potentially volatile subjects (like money and in-laws).Even the best families can have skeletons.But that’s perfectly fine.Just makes life more interesting. Being straightforward is great ,but a little diplomacy prevents your love life from spiraling into oblivion.Stress and fights are bad for your health and relationship.
Eat together
Life is busy .But we always have breakfast together.Dinner time together is great too ,but not if you eat very late.Ideally there should be two hours between last meal and bedtime.
Trust
Cannot stress the importance of this enough.I only keep up relationships with people I trust.Trust is a human currency.The more trustworthy you are ,more trustworthy people you will find.
When you trust your partner,life is easier.Doubts and suspicion can eat away the foundation of a relationship.
Relax and hangout together
You want to run on the treadmill ,he wants to watch a movie.Just keep your TV and treadmill in your family room.Problem solved.This way you can both motivate each other to live healthier .Looking good,feeling happy and being happy ,all go together.
Grow together
Support and appreciate each others hobbies.When your hubby is passionate about something ,knowing a bit about it helps keep the conversation going.After all a marriage is like a partnership.It only works when both partners work at it.
Make your marriage your priority
After becoming parents we forget to be husband and wife. Dont let this happen to your marriage.Always try to keep the fire alive.Nobody ever gets anything without trying.Marriages are made in heaven,but they are made magical here on earth .When children see their parents happy together,they learn what make relationships work.No amount of lecture can teach them that.
Be loving
Hugging and kissing is a big part of our family activity,We never leave home without kissing each other goodbye.When we are at home and busy with our personal work,my daughter makes us have cuddle breaks.We have a group cuddle ,and tickling competition .The sound of her laughter makes everything worth it!
Celebrate festivals together
Deepa at kreativemommy tells us why celebrating festivals are important.Its the best way to teach children about our culture and values.Occassions are chance to make golden nuggets of memories.They are the happy moments which help them conjure their patronus, during life’s battles.Your life together is the best gift you can give to your child.
Go to bed together
This should be obvious right?But often work and responsibilities get in the way of the us time.Never ever do that.You may have work to do and loads of different social media surfing left.But remember ,a healthy married life reflects on your face.You can get rid of wrinkles and the special glow that no amount of spa will give .At the least ,hugging and kissing is a must before sleeping.
That’s been our motto for the 9 years we have been married together.
What are your secrets to a happy family life?
Writing this for #MondayMommyMoments
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Small things make so much difference. And making a happy family keeping aside your problems also is a task but its important for future.
Communication is really a must for everyone. Well for family, the rule to have a no phone at some time would enhance physical communication and also improves family bonding.
These are such great tips. I have been learning thia over the past 2 years of my marriage. So many people miss out on the beauty of their marriage because they aren’t willing to be selfless.
I love this and totally agree with them all, not having had the best upbringing i defiantly think we can change things around and make it different for our kids, its what i have done, I’m not perfect but im proud that i can be better for my little family 🙂
Great that you are trying o make a different set of memories
Respect is so important! I feel like even if you have everything else in place, if there is no respect it just won’t work.
Thanks a lot
These are wonder tips you provided. I’ve found this post very informative. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you.
This is interesting! I am not married so I wouldn’t know from real life experience but I did hear about how it’s really beneficial to go to sleep at the same time. I think I heard about 5 married couples tell me that is the key to minimizing arguments so it must be true!
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Yes its a very important rule to follow.
We try to do things as a family. My husband has a crazy work schedule though so it doesn’t happen as often as we’d like. We do go to bed at the same time most nights though.
Thats good to know
I love this family motto. Though we don’t have kids my fiance and I are making an effort to come up with our own motto. We are so busy during the week, but try to have dinner together and lately we’ve been searching for a cell phone rule that will give us some uninterrupted time together
Yes tailor make rules according to what works
My family and I do most of these. I love being part of this family. I couldn’t imagine life without them.
Stay blessed
Wow Amrita. This is incredible advice and reading it makes me feel you make it sound so easy but thats because you are a pro at it 😉
love your words about Trust – very important in any relationship!
Thanks darling we are not really ever pros ,but we keep trying.Thanks for the kind words
Love the lines Amrita. Very well written. Thankyou for linking with us #Click&blogAStory
Thanks Zainab
Interesting writeup.
A happy family is like a small model of society, the school of relationships with people, and at the same time a shelter where they can hide from problems, take a rest from fuss, restore energy strengths and teach your children to love others. Every family is like a small state. Like in every state, in a life of each family there are ups and downs, there are wonderful moments and bad days. The important thing is to stay together, to support each other, and to share your joy and sorrow with your spouse and relatives. Besides, you should be patient as there are no perfect families as no perfect people in the Earth planet. And your patience and forgiveness are important for a normal and happy life in family.
Thank you
I love this and totally agree with your points here. respect, trust, spending time together all contribute to a healthy and happy marriage. #mg
Thanks Mackenzie
Ours is a big family and I know how big the value of parents, grand parents and almost everyone is important. I agree that trusting each other and staying together on every possible activity will lead a wonderful family bonding anytime!
Very true.How wonderful to have a big family
Great tips. We always make our marriage a priority and the only time we ever go to bed separately (apart from when he is working away, he’s in the Merchant Navy) is when one of us is poorly and wants to go to bed super early. I think affection within the family is extremely important to keep you connected x
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Thanks Alana .Yes thats very important affection within family.Thanks for visiting from #mg
Great insights, Amrita. Your post helped us to reassure that we are growing with our happy family. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks Vasantha
That’s an absolute guide to make a happy family, Respect, good listener , spending time together strengthen our bond and give us confidence . superb post thanks for shraing
Thanks Bushra
Respect is so important, especially for children too. We also have a family breakfast as we aren’t always together at dinner time. The family meal doesn’t have to be dinner! #mg
Absolutely true.
My daughter and I always try to eat together. It is one of the moments during the day that we feel the most connected.
Thank you
My hubs and I are definitely a proponent of making our marriage a priority. It helps so much in the overall strength and structure of our family.
Absolutely true
Those are all excellent tips for a happy family. I practice most of these, but need to work on some.
Communication goes a long way and that includes active listening. Whether it is a great marriage or a healthy relationship with your kids these are excellent tips to practice daily.
Absolutely right.
Amazing life tips to always live by! Thank you for these wonderful reminders.
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These are most of the things I do with my kiddos. Recently they started to use the tablets or phones at dinner time. I put a box and said no technology allowed while eating, I think that’s a time to eat and enjoy each others company. So far, its working!
Good for you.No technology at dinner time