Today’s cornerstone content is about expert advice.My blog is full of expert advice,about health wellness,studying right and creating a creative life.
But today I will tell you about something which makes me a different kind of expert .
I am a misfit expert.
When I was growing up and kids were playing,I read story books.When I was a teenager,I read story book tucked inside my text book.But luckily I did read the text book first.
A little older I got into a troubled group trying to fit in.End result- a life crisis I never forgot.A curve ball and I decide I will stop trying to fit in.It wasn’t working and it created crazy situations.That stage lasted for three years.
When I became a medical student ,I realized the importance of faking the fitting in part.I was very good at it.Too good infact. I could almost believe I the story I told myself.
Second year microbiology exam and a horrible exam situation and I totally ditched fitting in or faking it forever.
Life became better.I made lifelong friends ,fell in love and the rest they say is a story for another day.
But if that was in my teens and tweens,I managed several goof ups as a mommy too.
I seemed to suffer barriers to social skills.
It was so irritating sometimes, that I even asked my Pediatrician husband, whether I had some undiagnosed personality disorder and whether it was becoming glaringly real .
He continued to be supportive and insisted, I was exactly the same as before .Was that a good thing he was saying?I wondered .
He said ,
Amrita you just need to stop your expectations from other people.
Yes I had that problem.Expectations about being accepted.I was afraid of not being liked ,I was also afraid of being liked.It was crazy.
It seems the only thing that looks good on me is being me.
I decided I would just stop trying to ‘fit in’.
Life was busy and the entire 2020, I seem to be blogging about things I had no plans to blog about.
So if you are a Misfit remember this from a fellow Misfit .
You are a Unicorn, embrace that.
Dont try to fit in too hard.Just try sliding in.If that works ,great.If not God has other plans.
There’s a reason you are the way you are.Its okay if no one understands. You must understand though!
If you need help ask for it.You will.also find it.
People who love you ,will accept you the way you are.People who don’t love you ,won’t and they dont matter either.
The world needs the out -of- the- box thinkers .You are one of them.Keep that close to your heart
If God wanted us to be the same, he would have made us all the same.
Stay unique ,because the world needs rainbows, not just one colour!
From an Expert misfit to another .
Thank you for reminding us it’s okay to be ourselves as I am good about that but my son is struggling although more and more he is becoming himself and doing what makes him happy. But at times I end up shaking my head at the things he does but I am trying to go with the flow. Including when we leave home and he has one white shoe and sock and one black shoe and sock on because his clothes are black and white. As a mom we need to pick out battles and this is one I am not taking on.
be you is my mantra too… and i was that kid throughout school as well – the one who read and read and read 🙂 and still am that adult..
Oh, I really needed to see this today! I am such a misfit. It feels better to say unicorn than reject! And yes, it is not my problem if other people reject my out of the box thinking. That box was over rated anyway!
I could put my granddaughter’s name in place of yours! Sometimes it’s good to be a misfit and go to the beat of your own drum. You have so much to be proud of for being a misfit!
This is great advice! Because as you have said, trying to fit in is more likely to lead to disaster than happiness. It is a road paved with good intentions, but ultimately, it won’t take us where we want to go.