Self-love is a favorite topic.I once read
If you find someone to love you as much as you love yourself you will live happy.Anon
So the first step is to love yourself deeply madly crazily.
If that sounds crazy, be crazy.Do not let your self-love dry up.
Be your own bestie, be kind to yourself.Forgive yourself and let yourself live.When one thinks about the different types of love their trials and tribulations, the easiest should be self-love right?According to psychologists, it’s not that simple.
Selfish self-centered and narcissistic are all siblings.They are the different clones of the same self or ego.The one you will feed more will grow (wisdom alert!)
Narcissism by definition(Wikipedia)
Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one’s own attributes.
But healthy balanced positive narcissism or self-love is needed to develop self-esteem and self-love?This is Dr.Jekyll!
This concept was not researched in detail by Freud but by Paul Federn.
Psychologists suggest that healthy self-love is an essential part of the self or ego.
It is needed for self-preservation.
Even when you love with all your being try to keep a part of yourself deep within your soul.This is the protection that preserves your soul from all outside evil disruptive forces.This fragment of your self is the narcisstic part of us which wants to survive, to flourish to grow.
Children need this sense of self-preservation groomed into their childhood.Otherwise it tough.
But what if you love yourself too much?
If your quest for fame fortune and starshine outshines normal social norms and is at the cost of other relationships, maybe its time to pause.
While its impossible to go forward in life without self-love, self-confidence and a good dose of self-esteem, it’s equally important to have empathy and feeling of social inclusion.
When we focus too much on me we may actually lose we.
The important thing to remember hardcore narcissism is according to Freud one of the three dark triadic personality traits.The other two are psychopathy and Machiavellianism.Meet Mr.Hyde!
Food for thought anyone?
The only answer to this question from me.It’s complicated.
A balance is needed .Just like everything else in life.
Writing this to start off #MondayMommyMoments this week.Do check out my Republic Day post on the 26th.
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