Parents are like gardeners .As a parent we help grow future citizens of our human society.
Children grow up watching their parents.
They learn about relationships from their parents.But can things be forced?
Relationships are what they are.You have to work on them to make them beautiful.Loving parents help make a loving child.When parents are loving towards each other,the child feels secure in the cocoon of love.Disagreements are inevitable.But its important that differences in opinion are resolved without ugliness.
The only way to do that is to work on yourself.When each member of family tries to make the home a happy one,it will be a Happy home.
So what do you need to grow a happy family?
Can you really grow a happy family?What if you were never a part of one?You can always learn .Right?You can l;earn to do anyrthing.Its the unlearning of bad reactions that need working on!
Respect each other
Not only husband and wife ,but the little one needs to be respected.His/her thoughts and feelings are as important as any adults .You are the one to teach her about respect.
Listen to each other
If your husband listens to you ,believe me you have been blessed.Men have a strange habit of tuning off when women rant.Its important you make eye contact while discussing potentially volatile subjects (like money and in-laws).Even the best families can have skeletons.But that’s perfectly fine.Just makes life more interesting. Being straightforward is great ,but a little diplomacy prevents your love life from spiraling into oblivion.Stress and fights are bad for your health and relationship.
Life is busy .But we always have breakfast together.Dinner time together is great too ,but not if you eat very late.Ideally there should be two hours between last meal and bedtime.
Cannot stress the importance of this enough.I only keep up relationships with people I trust.Trust is a human currency.The more trustworthy you are ,more trustworthy people you will find.
When you trust your partner,life is easier.Doubts and suspicion can eat away the foundation of a relationship.
Relax and hangout together
You want to run on the treadmill ,he wants to watch a movie.Just keep your TV and treadmill in your family room.Problem solved.This way you can both motivate each other to live healthier .Looking good,feeling happy and being happy ,all go together.
Support and appreciate each others hobbies.When your hubby is passionate about something ,knowing a bit about it helps keep the conversation going.After all a marriage is like a partnership.It only works when both partners work at it.
Make your marriage your priority
After becoming parents we forget to be husband and wife. Dont let this happen to your marriage.Always try to keep the fire alive.Nobody ever gets anything without trying.Marriages are made in heaven,but they are made magical here on earth .When children see their parents happy together,they learn what make relationships work.No amount of lecture can teach them that.
Hugging and kissing is a big part of our family activity,We never leave home without kissing each other goodbye.When we are at home and busy with our personal work,my daughter makes us have cuddle breaks.We have a group cuddle ,and tickling competition .The sound of her laughter makes everything worth it!
Celebrate festivals together
Deepa at kreativemommy tells us why celebrating festivals are important.Its the best way to teach children about our culture and values.Occassions are chance to make golden nuggets of memories.They are the happy moments which help them conjure their patronus, during life’s battles.Your life together is the best gift you can give to your child.
Go to bed together
This should be obvious right?But often work and responsibilities get in the way of the us time.Never ever do that.You may have work to do and loads of different social media surfing left.But remember ,a healthy married life reflects on your face.You can get rid of wrinkles and the special glow that no amount of spa will give .At the least ,hugging and kissing is a must before sleeping.
That’s been our motto for the 9 years we have been married together.
What are your secrets to a happy family life?
Writing this for #MondayMommyMoments
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